Bury has adopted the national definition of Domestic Abuse and Violence (DAV):
'Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over, who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.
This can encompass, but is not limited to, the following types of abuse:
This also includes so-called honour based violence, female genital mutilation and forced marriage.
If you are in immediate danger, phone 999, or get someone else to phone, and state whether you need the police, ambulance or fire service. Move to a safe place, avoiding kitchens or stairs, and stay near a door for a quick escape. If in doubt, get out.
If the situation is not an emergency, but you still need the police, call 101.
What is domestic violence and abuse?
Domestic violence and abuse mainly takes place in intimate relationships, but can occur in a familial situation. It can be experienced from a current or former partner, siblings, parents or children. It includes a number of different types of behaviour and power and control tactics. It is not just about physical violence. It can include:
- Controlling and coercive behaviour towards you
- Shouting, mocking, accusing, name calling, verbally threatening you, family and pets
- Threatening suicide, lying to family & friends about you
- Putting you down, ignoring you, blaming you, isolating you from friends and family
- Forcing you to perform sexual acts
- Punching, slapping, hitting, biting, kicking, hair pulling, pushing, shoving, burning, strangling
All these are behaviours of an abusive person. All of these are acts of domestic violence and abuse.
Who does it happen to?
Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone!
- It doesn’t matter whether you are a man or a woman
- It doesn’t matter if you are straight or gay
- It doesn’t matter how much you earn
- It doesn’t matter if you have children
- It doesn’t matter what your religion is
- It doesn’t matter what your race is
What can you do?
If you are in an abusive relationship:
- Remember get help
- Remember you are not to blame
- Remember it is not acceptable
- Remember you are not alone
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